We often meet the unexpected. What if instead of freaking out, turning away, running away, we freaking turn toward, run to the unexpected? What if we steer into the surprise?
For the last few years, that’s pretty much been my M-O. Up until I married my college boyfriend at age 22, my life was exactly what I’d always planned it to be, but after that, it’s been one big didn’t-see-it-coming.
A Bit About Me
I’m a total weirdo. I’m Scary-Intense Girl and I stink at small talk. I laugh at fart jokes, my favorite color is orange, and I majored in theatre (Shut up.). I love crunchy leaves and I drink lots of black coffee.
My laugh is a combination honk-snort, and it’s so bad that people have moved away from me in the movie theater. I hide kale in smoothies but also have a waffle fry addiction. I adore sci-fi and superheroes, and I’m terrified of Pinterest.
I’m allergic to sports. And the outdoors. And outdoor sports.
How I Ended Up Blogging
After a five-year battle with infertility and a long stint as a human lab rat, I finally held my baby and took on the title of Mom. We settled into big-time hunkering in the land of golf carts and capri pants, and then the unexpected happened. God woke me up from my cushy suburban stupor and set my heart on fire for the rest of the world, his people living in poverty and slavery.
We started the adoption process for our youngest daughter and I began serving as a sponsorship coordinator for a village in Northern Uganda with Children’s HopeChest. I started blogging about our adoption process and the kids who needed sponsors. Over the years, I’ve continued to write about orphan care and adoption, and the more kids we have and the crazier our house becomes, the more I’ve blogged about this unexpected party called Motherhood.
What I Do and Care About
I love relationships, the ones with my kids, my husband, my God, and my friends, those other mamas with whom I do life. I love my friends so much that I wrote a book about them, Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends (Zondervan).
I spend my days blogging in my basement and driving my kids around in a smelly minivan with manual doors. I have three kids, one son from in vitro, one daughter from Ethiopia adopted as a toddler, and one daughter from Latvia adopted as a nine-year-old. Our family has formed in the most unexpected of ways. I could not have seen any of this coming, and I love it all so much. But it’s been a road, so I wrote a book about that, too, It’s Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn’t Choose (Zondervan).
I love to laugh and use humor as a coping strategy for life’s unexpected twists. If you read something and think, “I can’t believe she said that,” I was probably kidding. If I saw you in person, I’d want to hug you, so if you pop by my spot on the Internet, consider yourself hugged. There should be more hugging in the world.
What You’ll Find Here
I like to open up a lot of space around me when it comes to views. That goes for things like what kinds of choices moms make to what kinds of views you have about God. I love Jesus, but I hope people feel loved here whether they love Jesus or have a completely different take on things. I’m not a theologian, so I try to keep my opinions small. I know two things to be true: God loves me, and God loves you.
So if you stick around here, you’ll find stuff about being a mom, stuff about being a friend, and occasionally stuff about infertility, adoption, and orphan care. And sometimes TMI about poop, because inside I’m still a twelve-year-old up all night at a sleepover. Most of it will make you laugh and hopefully go, “Me, too.” Sometimes we do cool things together to help other people. I love this blog community because everyone is really encouraging, has a great sense of humor, and loves to laugh. You guys make me a better mom and a happier woman.